There’s a problem with the one-size-fits-all wisdom commonly intoned during dating discussions (“Just put yourself out there! After jumping through the hoops of answering questions such as “where are you from? ” one too many times, you start feeling that dates are no longer probable sources of a deep, meaningful relationship, but rather deep, dark pits of despair. You tend to be sucked of all your energy as if you’ve been set upon by a Harry Potter dementor. Don’t feel the need to go into some long, drawn-out explanation either.Because, as introverts, we often derive our energy from solitude and quiet contemplation in which to process life’s events, we have only so much social goodwill to go around. Just simply state that you need to reschedule, and offer an alternative date, time, and place. I’m going to pass along the best piece of advice my old therapist ever gave me.Be patient with an introvert, and just offer your love and support.They will come around eventually, as long as you make them feel safe.
I mention that I tend to spend many hours reading and that I like book recommendations.
Did you know that introverts make up 16-50% of the population? They crave depth and conversations that really make them think.
If you don’t identify as an introvert yourself, you likely know at least one person who leans more toward introversion. They really don’t mean to hide away and forget about the world, but at the same time, they just require some time to decompress and boost their energy levels.
Maureen “Marzi” Wilson is a book-loving, pet-cuddling, pizza-eating introvert, living a quiet existence in the mountains.
She’s the artist behind Introvert Doodles.com, a comic series that explores the joys and challenges of introversion. Wondering how to get close to someone who loves to be alone?